We’ve all heard it or said it ourselves: “I just want them to have it better.”
But what if that longing isn’t about the child at all?
What if it’s the echo of a deeper ache one we’ve been carrying for generations?

This week, we look beneath the surface of modern convenience
and ask a question that could change everything:
What story are we really passing down?

Village Curations

Wisdom We’re Tuning Into

🎧 Podcast Highlight | Parenting Ashram – The Village Effects Series
In this week’s episode, I speak into a truth many of us feel but rarely name:
Parenting was never meant to be a performance-with Jennifer Jeffcoat
This conversation is a reclamation of presence, intuition, and soul rhythm. We explore how modern parenting became isolated and performative—and why remembering the village is remembering ourselves.
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📖 From My Practice | Family Ecology on “Good Enough”
Countless parents express the wish, "I just want them to have it better." Yet, what does this truly signify when we continue to bear the emotional burdens of our own unfulfilled desires? This piece delves into the intricate ways our social identity is molded by the dynamics of our early family life, and how embracing the concept of "good enough" can revolutionize the landscape of our relationships.
🔗 Read the article on Mighty Networks

🎥 A Moment to Witness | Gabor Maté on Emotional Safety
In this short yet powerful clip, Dr. Gabor Maté speaks to the wisdom of hunter-gatherer cultures, where alloparenting, the shared care of children by the entire community, was the norm. He names how the breakdown of this village-based model in modern society has led to stressed, isolated parents and emotionally dysregulated children.

The message is clear: what we’re seeing in today’s youth anxiety, disconnection, and behavioral challenges is not a personal failure, but a cultural fragmentation of what once held us.

It’s a vital reminder that attachment is not meant to fall on one person, and parenting was never meant to be done alone.
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💬 From My Journal:

This Week’s Invitation – Awaken With Us

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Stories From the Fire Circle

“I Just Want Them to Have It Better”

Why the Village Effect Isn’t Just Parenting—It’s a Soul Retrieval

“I just want them to have it better.”
It’s a phrase I’ve heard over and over again, sitting beside postpartum parents still in their pajamas, tearful, exhausted, alone, doing the most sacred work with no one to witness it.

And yet, when I’d look around, I’d often see what the world might call “success.”
Two degrees. Two cars. A modest home. A solid career.

So I’d gently ask, “What more can you want for your child?”

The room would fall silent.
Eventually, someone would whisper, “I just don’t want them to be this stressed… this overwhelmed.”

And that’s when I realized this isn’t just about our children.
This is about us. About the inheritance of unspoken pain.
About the soul.

For generations, we've carried the story: Give them more. Make it easier. Keep them safe.
And in many ways, we’ve done just that.

We can push a button, and food arrives at the door.
We can track our baby’s sleep cycles on an app.
AI can answer our questions, offer parenting tips, even write our to-do lists.

But despite this convenience, despite all the “progress,” it’s still not enough.
Because we’re not tending to what actually aches.
We're tending to the external, while the internal begs to be seen.

This story we keep telling I just want them to have it better
is often a reflection of a soul that’s been working endlessly to feel “good enough.”

We inherited the belief that worth is proven through productivity.
That love means sacrificing yourself until there's nothing left.
That parenting is about performance, not presence.

But what if “better” isn’t more ease, more tools, more achievement?

What if “better” is something deeper?
Something softer?
Something relational?

What I’ve seen again and again is that when parents begin to reconnect to their Self,
When they pause the generational story and come back to their own truth,
Something powerful happens.

The outside noise starts to fade.
The striving quiets.
And parenting becomes less about doing it right and more about being in it together.

This is The Village Effect.
It’s not a nostalgia trip. It’s not about recreating some mythical past.
It’s about remembering the rhythm of what it means to parent in community,
to raise a child while staying connected to soul, to body, to one another.

Because parenting in isolation was never nature’s plan.
Parenting in performance was never the soul’s desire.

And we don’t just need new tools.
We need a new story.

A story where success means presence.
Where connection is currency.
Where children and parents alike feel safe to be enough, just as they are.

Let this be the beginning of that remembering.

Until Next Time

When we understand soul development, we stop parenting for performance and start parenting for wholeness.
Let’s continue to build environments where children can grow without being uprooted.
We’re walking this together, one breath, one circle, one choice at a time.

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